Q: I have a 10 year old granddaughter who I have not been able to see or speak to [...]
Denied contact: Q&A with our Grannysetter, Jane JacksonCreated by Jane Jackson in No contact, Q&A's
شرحه What was the situation that first led to you being denied contact with your grandchild?
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I asked if it would be possible for my granddaughters teacher just to keep and eye on it, to see if her hearing was indeed a problem.
The Head was very nice and said that she would pass on my concerns to the teacher.
She also told my ex daughter-in-law that I had rung, needless to say she contacted my son and was furious with me, and said that would be the last time he or myself would see her. And it was.
(There was in fact a problem with her hearing and she had to have grommets inserted to put it right.)
صفحة ويب What steps did you take to avoid this being the case?
When I realized that we were going to lose contact with her, I emailed and wrote a letter to my ex daughter-in-law, saying that whatever I had said or done, I was truly sorry and that could we not talk and sort it out?
I never had a reply to either. Some time later I found my step grandson, (my ex daughter-in-law had, had another child before she met my son) on Facebook and I sent him a message, I received a very abusive reply.
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No. Mediation can only take place if the two parties agree to this, and my ex daughter-in-law had made it clear she would never speak to me again.
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No. I made a conscious decision not to, for me my granddaughter had to live her life, to be able to grow unhindered. If I had gone down the legal route, it would have caused her enormous emotional upset and confusion., I felt she had gone through enough. To have her Mum and grandparents fighting over her was something I couldn’t bear. It was the most difficult decision I have ever made.
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Not being able to watch her grow or to witnes her milestones. Not being able to give her a hug and make her smile. Not being able to share things with her, family things. Not being able to know if she is safe and happy. Not knowing if she thinks I don’t love her and that I let her down.
The whole family have a huge gap in their lives.
كيف تربح المال من الأسهم What do you feel she is missing out on?
She is missing out on the love and support of her extended family, her aunts , uncles, cousins etc. On her identity, her history on her background. Memories of older members of the family.
طرق الحصول على المال Would you have done anything differently?
When these awful things happen in our lives I think we always think we should have done something differently. Being wise after the event. You can of course do nothing about the past, it has gone we can only look to the future. If I had the luxury of having that time again, I would have spoken to her Mum, not her school, how ever difficult that would have been.
قضايا الخادم الخيار الروبوت الثنائية Would it have made the outcome different?
In my case, no I don’t think it would.
رابط موقع Do you have any advice for other grandparents out there who are in a similar situation to you?
My advice to other grandparents who are denied contact with their grandchildren, is to stay calm, try not to get embroiled in the blame game. It is not helpful to anyone. Try to keep the lines of communication open. Remember birthdays, Christmas etc, send letters , cards. If you can . Anything you send photocopy and keep in a memory box. If you think letters etc don’t reach your grandchildren use a company who sends cards, that way they are sent from the company so it is not your postmark on the envelope.
Remember that if you have had a relationship with your grandchild/children , they will not forget that.
Grandparents DO regain contact with their grandchildren, there is hope so never give up.
Please do not feel you are alone, you are not, join a support group to help you through those difficult times , you can get support by email, on the phone or by attending meetings, if there is one near you. Being able to talk to other grandparents who are experiencing the same thing is helpful and you will also be supporting someone else who may well be truly desperate. Jane runs a support group in ristol, read more at www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk