Q: I am wondering if you can help me. I only live 5 miles from my eldest son’s children [...]
Ask Jackie: she says we are a bad influenceCreated by Jackie Highe in Ask Jackie, No contact
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سوق الاسهم السعودي تداول مباشر enter site The family helped them move into their new flat before the baby was born and things were a little better but for no reason that we can fathom she started saying that we were a bad influence to her baby and she didn’t want any negativity around her daughter. That was seven months ago. Since then I have tried my best to get things back on track so to speak. My granddaughter’s 1st birthday is fast approaching and so is Christmas and still nothing I do helps.
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follow source link A: My first instinct when I read your letter was that your son’s partner is marking her territory – she was fine until she became pregnant but then started drawing lines because she wanted to feel in charge of the baby. It’s very common behaviour, in this situation, where she’d been living in your home and ‘under your wing’ so to speak.
This may be the case, and if so, it will gradually wear itself out as she realises you’re not a threat (as long as you don’t interfere too much of course).
But her behaviour since the birth makes me wonder if there might be more going on here. Checking up on your son’s accounts and timing his movements, are worryingly extreme, and it’s clear that they’re causing your son a lot of anxiety. It may be that she’s having a bout of severe baby blues – or even some post natal depression. If this is so she needs help. Baby blues can play itself out – although it’s horrid to live through without support, but PND is a physical illness that needs medical help.
This is a delicate situation and it needs very careful handling. Your son is clearly being loyal to his partner – even if he feels she’s being unreasonable. But he might be worrying that she’s not well, too. Try to have a quiet word with him – on no account come out with the idea that she might be suffering from depression. And don’t get into what she has/hasn’t done or said with regard to the baby and you. Just say you’re worried about her health – that maybe she’s feeling a bit down and a visit to the doctor would be a good idea.
Your son might be deeply relieved to have someone to discuss this with. On the other hand he may reject it out of hand. You can only do your best.