Q: My son and his partner have a lovely boy but their relationship appears to [...]
Ask Jackie: denied access but wanting to open bank accountCreated by Jackie Highe in Ask Jackie, No contact
Q: Hi, I have a son who is denied access to his children as are we, I was wondering how to get a message through to them that we love them lots and always will, and that we are saving their cards and money until we can talk with them . I would like to open up an bank account for them to have later on in years but don’t know how without their ID. I was wondering if on birthdays were I to put up posters along the school run saying we still love them, would I be doing anything that we would be open to prosecution?
A: You don’t say why you’re being denied access, but you could talk to social services. They are legally obliged to promote access as long as it is in the best interests of the children. Provided this is so they will mediate on your behalf with your grandchildren’s mother.
Put your case to them – you and your son – reasonably and without anger and resentment. Point out that your grandchildren love you and miss you and would want you to be part of their lives.
And you can save money for them in a separate account which you set aside.
Perhaps posters aren’t such a good idea. I don’t know how old your grandchildren are, but they might be embarrassed by the publicity – and in any case you’d need permission from the local authority.