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Making childcare work for YOU tooCreated by Charlotte in Age: Baby & Toddler, Being a Granny-carer
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خيار ثنائي وضع الدعوة التكافؤ At face value this is a wonderful arrangement that works for both parties – your children have piece of mind that the person responsible for their child has a vested interest and you has lots of precious time with your grandchild. Plus of course, the child benefits from an enriched upbringing.
التوصيات المجانية للاسهم السعودية However, this seemingly perfectly balanced set up can sometimes turn out less harmoniously than planned. Being asked to sign on the dotted line when you offer childcare to your grandchildren may seem a step too far, but according to our survey, 78% of grandparents agreed that families should establish some kind of formal childcare arrangement when they are providing the childcare. Here are some of your reactions to the idea of drawing up a ‘contract’:
“Consistency is important – but so is flexibility. There should be a few very basic ground rules, if only to forestall ‘playing off’ parents against grandparents, but with ‘wiggle room’ for learning that different people have different attitudes.”
“… we have had a long chat about it today and decided that we are going to impose some basic restrictions that may help us – the care must be in our home (theirs is chaotic and sends us scatty), and if it’s for several consecutive days we will have them sleep over or even rent a cottage at the seaside and go off for the duration – gives us at least a shot at consistency. Feel a bit better already!”
“ABSOLUTELY!!! [There should be ground rules established] We didn’t and now it’s a nightmare. It’s caused real problems and tension in the family and how I wish wish, wish that we had written up an agreement in advance.”
“It is only fair on the child that all the people that are caring for them are on the same page.”
enter So here are some of our top tips on how to avoid conflict:
- Few grandparents have the energy to offer full time care for five days a week. You may be keen to offer this, but those with experience say it’s physically overwhelming. Of course this depends on family circumstances as sometimes needs must.
- Make sure that you have good communication with the parents – let them know if you feel you need a break and feel ok to say ‘no’ occasionally, especially when it’s for health reasons.
- The issue of whether grandparent should be paid for looking after their grandchildren leaves people divided. If you don’t want to receive any payment then you could suggest being reimbursed for your expenses, such as travel or anything you spend whilst you’re looking after them.
- Most grandparents feel more comfortable looking after grandchildren in their own homes. This is because they feel better able to function normally in their own surroundings. Stick to your guns on this and remind parents that it’s good for a child to spend time in different environments and get used to being comfortable somewhere other than home.
- It really helps if you have all the equipment your grandchildren will need at your house to save lugging things backwards and forwards. Perhaps ask parents to help in the purchasing of these items, either in monetary form or by advising you on where best to buy everything. Second-hand stuff and eBay really comes into its own here.
- Agree on an approach to your grandchildren’s eating habits and take note of what they like and dislike. Obviously you’ll want to give occasional treats to your grandchildren, so do find out if certain things are off limits (eg. food containing e-colourings).
- A consistent approach to discipline is very important. You should be given the right to judge discipline in the context of that child’s day. Being granted this will make your life far easier, but discuss appropriate punishments and rewards beforehand with your family.
http://parts.powercut.co.uk/?risep=%D8%A3%D9%81%D8%B6%D9%84-%D8%A5%D8%B4%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%AF%D8%A7%D9%88%D9%84-%D9%84%D8%AE%D9%8A%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%AB%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%A6%D9%8A%D8%A9&cd7=b7 The bottom line is that communication is key. Discussing and even formalising your arrangement on paper can really help bypass any friction that can easily rear it’s ugly head (often when you need it the least).
http://www.ac-brno.org/?pycka=%D8%A8%D9%86%D9%83-%D8%B3%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%A8%D8%A7-%D8%A8%D9%8A%D8%B9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%B3%D9%87%D9%85&533=9c بنك سامبا بيع الاسهم Go to www.grannynet.co.uk/grannynet-groundrules to view our Ground Rules, an informal contract that you can download and use as a prompt for discussions around the more contentious issues relating to childcare.