Have you been 'guilted' into childcare...

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by your daughter/daughter-in-law?

[GrannyJules]

Not in the slightest
I was asked before my daughter was pregnant if I would be happy to look after my grandchild, so she could go back to work.
I jumped at the chance!
It's the type of family we are, I think.
I'm not a career person myself and was not working or looking for a job. So I had nothing to loose but everything to gain.
I'm fortunate to have a career husband, and he's happy to have our g/s around as he missed so much, the first time round.

[twinnana]

I offered as well ...but didnt know then it was two babies!!!!!!!!!!!

[Julie]

I think I offered but can't remember the conversation. I've always been happy to be involved with Jacobs childcare and wouldn't want it any other way.

Julie xx

[nantotwins]

yes, mine was almost the same as Twinnana; years ago, when I was younger, I remember saying I would help out if Daughter had a baby, and it was in some ways taken for granted that I would still do this years down the line. Even after they found out it was twins it was just taken for granted...I was a little hurt about that I must admit!!

[clareybel]

I offered straight away, as I knew my daughter would need to return to work at some point. I have reduced my working hours to enable to have a free day, so have taken a small hit financially, however the joy of my Lottie days has no price.

[cljlr6]

Just to say I find it interesting that having read many of the other posts on this forum I would have been forgiven for thinking that many of the grandmothers here were shoehorned into caring for their grandchildren by pushy and unreasonable daughters or daughters in law (..never sons though ) However when the question is directly asked, it would appear that many of you chose to care for your grandchildren and were not even asked..purely because your grandchildren are awesome and you love spending time with them.....
that's leaves with a nice warm fuzzy feeling

[twinnana]

I sometimes THINK that ity is assumed that I will step in if Mum and Dad want to go out...I do not like them assuming...they could ask nicely!!

I was thinking today that when they have annual leave next year I shall be away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[nantotwins]

Originally Posted by cljlr6

Just to say I find it interesting that having read many of the other posts on this forum I would have been forgiven for thinking that many of the grandmothers here were shoehorned into caring for their grandchildren by pushy and unreasonable daughters or daughters in law (..never sons though ) However when the question is directly asked, it would appear that many of you chose to care for your grandchildren and were not even asked..purely because your grandchildren are awesome and you love spending time with them.....
that's leaves with a nice warm fuzzy feeling

Hi cljlr6, Ive read both your posts with interest, your opinions are welcomed, but, it would be nice if you introduced yourself to us all.

[jack]

It must always be a choice for grandparents to be involved in the raising of the grandchildren.
A guilt free choice.
Not a decision that is forced upon them by the parents of the child.
The grandparent must make this choice,and should not be the "default parent" whilst the parent(s) work outside of the home due to financial or other circumstances.
She should not be the "default parent",if the parents or governments think this is the cheap option.
It is the grandparent that gives freely of their time,and this will depend on circumstances and possibly the age of the child and the grandparent for that matter.
It is the woman who again is exploited by the family and or the system.
Still in this age she is expected to be the "default "person for the family.yet she still does not have the right to be paid equal pay for equal work.
Where are the 50% positions in private and public sector,throughout all of the management layers in all those organisation?
Where is the 50%representation in politics and government?
She is still cheap labour.
Children are raised by cheap labour.
When will the job of raising this next generation of our society be given the dignity and congratulations to the woman of this world.
Broken society,yes it is broken because we no longer value the family unit,the core of which is the mother and father.
Because they are too busy working for material possessions that feed the greedy economy and pay the taxes for the greedy governments.
When will it end