Old fashioned manners

[nannyviolet]

I've gone to the grandfathers section to praise older men's manners...as mentioned by Anne somewhere else on the site, I do appreciate old fashioned manners: it's always (and only) older men who raise their hats when greeting a lady, open doors, get up from the table when a lady approaches....

[tizzyb]

My husband always walks on the outside of the pavement when we are walking, sweet man

[oldfashionedgranny]

My OH has always walked on my outside when we're out - and when we cross over the street, he moves automatically to the outside again. But a lot of young women nowadays find patronising what I regard as good manners - being offered a seat on a crowded bus or train for instance, or having heavy things carried for me. I have to say, that's the downside of women's lib IMO. Equality of opportunity, yes I was all for that, but somewhere along the line being looked after stopped being accepted graciously and so a lot of men won't risk a rebuff.

[tizzyb]

I do a lot of tube and train travelling for my job and it is very rare for anyone to offer me a seat - I like to think it is because I don't look my age but in fact I strongly suspect it is because they would rather keep their seat for themselves..........

My husband also crosses sides when we cross the road.

[anneandgraham]

my hubby always carries the shopping, walks on outside, helps me on with coat etc etc and it is lovely I totally expect it, but realise from friends hubbies it is not the norm!!
Manners cost nothing and they make the world a much nicer place!!

[jjoj]

Last year we had been to wedding reception came out to car park and OH opened car door for me to get in and a couple of women went awww have you just been married? (had button hole flowers in) when i said no they were shocked one said well its years since i seen a man open a car door for a women we thought you must be newly weds!!! Manners seem a thing of the past, what i get angry with is when you hold a door open for someone and they dont even say thanks just barge through as though your invisible. Jean

[tizzyb]

Yes Jjoj especially when it is a little person holding the door open and the adult does not even look at them. Happened to me and eldest grandson the other day. I was very annoyed and said quite loudly "Manners do not cost anything". The woman looked back and saw Joe standing there and, to her credit, was embarrassed and said thank you to him. People seem to just accept bad manners. I must admit if the person had been a younger person or a "rough" looking person I wouldn't have said anything

[Granny Goggins]

I think sadly its a generation thing,our husbands were all born in a time where ladies were treated as such. Mine to holds open doors,carrys the shopping,always pulls out a chair for me to be seated.The younger generation and womans lib have done away with a lot of basic courtesy,young girls dont seem to want to be treated the same way as we were.

[GrannyJules]

I can sometimes be heard muttering under my breath, "Thank you, wouldn't go a miss."
It's when someone pushes past me in a supermarket, says over their shoulder ,"sorry" but you know they don't mean it. I can be heard to say, "You will be if I get you with my trolley".
I don't suppose they hear me , but I feel better.

[Jane Jackson]

Good manners cost nothing and mean such a lot.
Jane