residency order for our 2 grandaughters

[nannycarol]

Hi Kaylinda. Just to update you on our two grandaughters.
We have continued keeping a diary.
Since april 2010, the girls have seen their mother on 2 occassions. On each visit she promised to take them to an indoor playpark and/picnic. She did neither!!! I feel very angry towards this woman when she lets the girls down. The older girl started street dance classes, so trying to do the right thing I phoned the mother asking if she would like to come and watch. She assurred me she would be there, unfortunately I told our grandaughter that mummy was coming to watch her dance. Well, I am sure you guessed that she did not turn up, everytime the door opened that little girl turned to see if it was mummy.
The girls never ask about mummy or cry for mummy, which I find really upsetting. What are they going to think when they are older and more aware of what's going on. On the positive side, the girls are so confident and happy little people. Though we do have bad days and question what we are doing having these little girls living with two old fogeys who drop into bed at 9pm exhausted. Nannycarol

[nantotwins]

What they are going to think is that theyve had really lovely caring Grandparents to look after them and give them love. we are so protective of our Grandchildren arent we, I know that I want to take the hurt and upset away from our two at the moment with the upsets they are going through.
It is so nice to have an update from you Nannycarol, I really admire you both, and the Lo's seem to be more contented, hopefully with more good days than bad ones. Best wishes to you all Georgine x

P.S. can I ask you how youve explained it all to the children??

[jack]

Conrgratulations on keeping the children safe and happy. Try not to stress yourself out about the mother. If she was the sort that could be motivated to "do the right thing" by her daughters,then you wouldnt have the problem in the first place. Trying to connect the mother and the children in any way will only bring grief to you and the children. You have given such a gift to the children.A happy stable home. They should be in bed by that time also!

[amawilliams]

Oh Nannycarol,

What wonderful grandparents you are.
So well done to you both and am deeply sorry tho to hear the system does not support you financially. How did you manage with the court process?
I am going thru similar and am really struggling. Our bill will be £6k just to see our GS.
Well done again you