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Who are you looking after?Created by Jane Jackson in Jane Jackson's Blog
It is an instinctive human need to look after somebody or something.
As an expectant parent you soon start a process that is so powerful. The preparation,the nesting and the anticipation, of course Mum has the hormonal bond, but Dads go through the need to look after the new arrival as well. It may be that a decision has been made to adopt a child, a child that you can open your hearts and home to and for you to look after.
Many people have pets to share their love with and to look after. As children I have no doubt that we all have those very special Teddies that we spent hours with, sharing our secrets and taking care of them. Many gardeners become one with nature, nurturing their soil to enable them to grow beautiful plants and flowers for them to tend.
Being part of Grannynet’s forum shows so clearly that although we may not have actually ‘met’ everyone, we feel as though these friends are there for us. We share each others delights but we are also there when times are not so good, we want to look after each other. Be it children, pets, gardens, Teddies or GN forum , it allows us to fulfil this fundamental need. We are very good at finding ways for us to continue this need.
Volunteering for example, by giving freely of our time to support and help others is hugely rewarding, we feel as though we are giving something back, and yes, it works both ways, it makes us feel good and it does good. In my area there is a scheme and I believe in other parts of the UK also, which is called Contact the Elderly. There is a group of people who are willing to open up their homes and offer a cuppa, cake and friendly banter for a couple of hours, to elderly residents who live on their own. One of the ladies I spoke to said that it was lovely to have these visits to look forward to and she felt as though she was being looked after.
I believe it is an emotion that shows all that is good in people and if we can look after someone or something we in turn are being looked after.