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Ask Jackie: staying close from afarCreated by Jackie Highe in Ask Jackie, Long-distance Grannies
Q: Can you give me any tips on how to stay close to my three lovely grandsons all under the age of five when I live so far away? My daughter does not have Skype and I am unable to travel much due to financial reasons. I miss them all terribly and want to be in their hearts always. Please tell me this is possible from a distance. I live in Scotland and my daughter is in the West Midlands.
A: It’s sad to be so far away – but it doesn’t mean you have to lose them from your life. Send them letters – ‘snail mail’ has a charm all of its own, online and it’s exciting to receive an envelope full of chatty news. You don’t have to talk about big things – just tiny things that would amuse them – the kind of thing you’d talk to them about if you were with them – silly jokes, clinic too. Put little things in a parcel – not expensive items – just pictures you think will amuse them, unhealthy photographs of you; a drawing you made of the funny shaped tree in your garden or the potato that looked like a dog; the story of the giant spider you found in the bath and what you did about it. News is irresistible to very young children, and the smaller it is, the better. If you send packets regularly they’ll start to expect them and look forward to the postman. Encourage their parents to help them send you their drawings. They’ll love it. As they grow they can write to you themselves, and they’ll love telling you their news – what they did at school and so on.
And invite them up to stay with you. Visits can cut both ways. And have them to stay so their parents can pop off for a night – or even longer. Don’t give up. Love always finds a way.