Q: Dear Jackie, I’ve had a big involvement in my granddaughter’s life and had her [...]
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Q: Dear Jackie, ambulance up until the last 5 months or so, asthma I have had a great relationship with my ex-daughter-in-law who has sole custody of my 5 year old granddaughter, my son; her father, is off of the scene and does not see her.
Of late, her mother has become less attentive to my granddaughter and also has only taken her to school about 40% of the time since september of last year. Consequently, I had raised this issue with my ex-daughter-in-law, and did contact the school welfare officer, and have had some good conversations. However, my ex-daughter-in-law now blames me for the intrusion of the education welfare officer, although she was aware of some issues and had been trying to engage with my ex-daughter-in-law. Now, she does not ring me and she does not answer the phone to me, I miss my granddaughter very much, and I know she would miss me, as I had her every other weekend.
Any advice you could offer would be very helpful, and can a contact order be applied for without legal representation would you know – I hope it does not come to that though. Thank you.
A: It seems a great pity that that school welfare officer didn’t pick up on such blatant absenteeism sooner, without a jog from you. It’s their job, after all.
You would need a solicitor to help you get a court order, but before you go down that route, talk to social services. They have a legal duty to promote family unity and to mediate on your behalf with your daughter-in-law.
Speak to them calmly, and explain how and why you acted. They should clearly see that your presence in your granddaughter’s life is important.