Q: I am lucky enough to have beautiful 10 month old Granddaughter. Since she was [...]
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click see Q: I have four children, three grandchildren. Two of my grandchildren live in Germany as my Son is in the forces, I see them every few months, which isn’t enough but we manage it well and make the most of the time.
see توصيات مجانية للعملات My other grandchild, Millie, is 3 in February, her mum, my daughter lives 10 minutes away from me with her partner. I was present when Millie was born and saw her almost everyday, up until 13 months ago. My daughter and I haven’t had an easy relationship but things improved when she became pregnant, I was elated when Millie was born.
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http://www.dramauk.co.uk/?arapyza=%D8%AA%D8%AD%D9%85%D9%8A%D9%84-%D9%81%D9%88%D8%B1%D9%83%D8%B3&34b=c9 It is so very sad, I have tried to talk to her but she is having none of it and is just nasty. My heart is in pieces…..
A: This is a tragedy – and everyone is suffering – you, your grandchildren – and your daughter too, because she’s distanced herself from all the love and assistance she’d be getting from you if you were on normal terms.
There’s no quick fix for this. What I’m going to suggest will be hard to do – but think of the rewards. Don’t keep hold of your anger. Don’t harp on about the past – whether you were right or wrong. Don’t reproach her. Forget what happened and just be there – the loving mum I know you are.
In time she’ll come round – she’ll remember she loves you and needs you. Be patient. Don’t say things that can never be unsaid. Your daughter loves you and she’ll remember it if you give her the space.